I have severe social and general anxiety disorders. Please bear with me if I start sounding really depressed or stop making sense... I am also an aromantic asexual (or aro ace for short). My ask is always open whether you follow me or not (you can be anonymous too if you want)
My main (fandom based) blog is hinata42691. So if you get a follow from there it's still me, I just can't follow people from rinsadreamer...
Had an awesome customer today and for some reason we were talking and she got on the topic about her kids being in there 20’s and have never dated or even really liked anyone, and I’m just like, well thats okay, I’m mean I’ve dated, but I’m not really interested in dating or anything. And then she said they were also trying to figure out there genders and I was like flipping my shit by then. I told her I’m genderqueer too and we were both like “OMG NO WAY” She just seemed really accepting of her children and I liked it.
I just want to get a cute apartment with someone and wear nothing but underwear and a big t-shirt or sweater and dance around, cook for each other, make our own movies and record each other while we’re playing, smiling, and laughing, and lay in bed together at night snuggled up warm together so close that we can here each others pulse.
Destroy the idea of soul mates because as an ace aro kid you get told your whole life there’s another person who’s PERFECT FOR YOU AND YOU’LL FALL IN LOVE 5EVER BECAUSE WANTING TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP IS NORMAL AND NATURAL AND THE DEFAULT and you grow up hating yourself for being broken and it is such a toxic broken idea
I notice everything. And by everything, I literally mean everything. I notice when someone stops hitting me up like they used to. I notice when the way someone talks to me starts changing. I notice the little things that people do, and the little things they used to do. I notice when things change, and when it’s no longer the same. I notice every single little detail. I just don’t say anything.
shout out to people who are scared to call others out, whose hands shake when they try to explain what’s wrong, whose throats threaten to close up with thoughts of ‘what if i’m just overreacting’, whose hearts are pounding out of their chests because they just stuck their necks out for their beliefs, who have lost friends and respect and safety for aligning themselves with causes
Stay out of the tags! 4chan is raiding again!
do you ever get friendlust. like. you just see someone and you’re like. man. i have such a friendcrush on you. i wanna be ur friend so bad. i wanna be more than a friend. i wanna be a BEST friend u hear me. ur so cool. i admire u a lot and ur so funny. plz b my bffl. i will treat u right. let me be ur drake-friend. no other friend will treat u like i would
And then it doesn’t happen and you get acquaintance zoned.
The original thing described is called a squish :)
- breath in for 4 seconds
- hold your breath for 7 seconds
- exhale breath for 8 seconds
repeat once or twice more.
This causes an autonomic nervous system shift from a sympathetic (fight or flight reaction) state to a parasympathetic response.
Use this for panic/anxiety attacks, exams, presentations.
Never not reblog
Anonymous said: Hey! About the whole masturbation thing: there's a nifty thing called autochorissexualism, which is a disconnection between someone and an object of arousal! So, it basically involves sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in sexual activities. It also happens in aromantic people, where they fantasise about romantic relationships, but don't necessarily want to be in one! xx
this is the best explanation of autochorissexualitsm I’ve ever heard, I think I actually understand the thing now.
Anonymous said: ugh im feeling so bad about myself right now because i was in one of my classes and we were having sex ed and the teacher said "who here has a crush raise their arms" and i didnt cause im aro and she saw i dint and turned to me and said "well i feel sorry for you because being in love is the best thing in the world" and i didnt know how to respond to that and like? is it really? am i never gonna be happy cause im aro? sry im just feeling so sad right now. like im broken or something...
take it from someone who’s been in love, it’s not that great. there’s some great parts of it, but most of it sucks really.
I don’t think aros are missing all that much. they’re not experiencing a certain aspect of relationships, but the very nature of why they don’t experience is makes it, that they don’t actually miss it.
good romantic relationships are great.
but so are good friendships. good family relationships. good acquaintances even.
every good relationship is great. every healthy relationship is great. and every unhealthy relationship is awful. and romantic relationships are even more awful when they’re bad because there’s such a big hype about them and such a big stigma about it.
you’re not broken. you’re not missing out. missing implies that you (or any other aro) want the romance. but you don’t. therefore you’re not missing it, merely not experiencing it.
I like to draw a comparison to clubbing / partying.
one could say that I’m missing out on the social experience, but I don’t like crowds of peoples in small places and I don’t like loud noises. I’m merely not experiencing something I don’t want in the first place. simple.
please do not yell at me im a nervous dumb girl who is just trying to survive